What makes a love last a lifetime? Affection? Yep. Respect? Sure. But a great marriage is not just about what you have. It’s about what you do to make a relationship stronger, safer and better.
Marriage is a home, a refuge against the outside storms. And like any house, it requires a strong and lasting foundation. To build one, every couple needs to take certain steps to live their life lovingly with each other. And that turns you and me into “we”.
So here are the 6 steps that will help you out to make your relationship even stronger.
1. Find a shared dream for your life together.
It’s easy to get caught up in the small stuff of married life: Whats for dinner tonight? Who’s turn is to clear the small corner? But the best partners never lose sight of the fact that they are working together to achieve the same big dreams. Successful couples quickly develop a mindfulness of ‘us’ of being coupled. Try to remind yourself and your partner that you are a team not individuals with shared values.
2. Choose each other as your first family.
For years you were primarily a member of the first family: the one in which you grew up. Then you got married, and suddenly you became the member of a new family, one in which the husband and wife are the A-team. It can be tough to put your identity like this. But it’s also an important part of building up your image. Whatever the situation you have to face just remember one thing that you have to outline the boundaries together for you and your family.
3. Build the best friendship.
One of the most important things is making a close and friendly relation with your life partner. A friend is whom you can share everything with your sadness, your happiness and other things which make you completely happy. When you are true friends, you acknowledge and respect what the other person is. You don’t try to control or change the things. Let your eyes talk not your mouth.
4. Face down a major challenge together.
You’re sailing along through your life, and suddenly you hit a huge bump. The loss of job, serious illness. How do you cope?
The truth is you never know how strong your relationship is until it’s tested. All too often, the stress of crises can pull a couple apart. But the good news is when you do make it through in one piece you might just find yourself stronger than before.
5. Find a balance between time for two and time for you.
Your need for being together will also change over time, so you’ll have to shift your balance accordingly. Try to go out and spend quality time together. When it comes to being together, every couple has its own unique sweet spot. There are couples that are never apart and there are couples that see each other only on weekends. Just plan out a dinner and gave your time to each other.
6. Learn how to fight right.
Fighting is the big problem every couple has to deal with. That’s because fights will always come up, so every couple needs to know how to fight without tearing each other apart.
Fighting right doesn’t only mean throwing products, it means staying focused on the issue at hand and respecting each other’s perspective.
7. Make your heart larger.
Don’t hide your own faults if you had committed any wrong thing, try to be more open with your partner. Show her that you love her. Listen to her as much as you can, and sometimes you have to compromise for her happiness so don’t get frustrated. Live your life but be ready for her whenever you find her to be loved.
8. Give time to her.
Time is a very precious gift that you can ever give to anybody, especially to your loved ones. So give your time, go for dating or a long drive to make her mood fresh and lovable. Ask her whether she’s alright, share your thoughts with her, give a warm welcome to her thoughts as well.
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